A Baker's Dozen of Important People in My Life
It's easy to take the people in our lives for granted. Even the ones that matters most. So I decided to do a little project to let the most important people in my life right now know how much I appreciate them.
I was toying with the idea for about a week, oddly a bit nervous to send out messages of love and appreciation, even to those closest to me. I also needed to decide, who I needed to send messages to. It didn't take long, as I think I already knew subconsciously, before I had compiled a list of 13 people or a baker's dozen if you will. In our family, 13 is a lucky number so it seemed perfect.
Also, fun fact (am I lame for actually thinking this is fun?) it's called a baker's dozen because during medieval times bakers would cheat, so a law was implemented that said exactly how much a dozen bread should be in weight. It was punishable by law, so bakers started tossing in an extra bread just to be on the sure side if one bread was too small and below the legal weight. I never knew that. Isn't that cool?
Back on track, I narrowed the important people in my life down to four categories; family, old friends, university friends and horse people. In the first category was my immediate family; Mum, Dad, little brother and grandmother. Old friends meant my two oldest friends from my first school. University friends was the four people in my study group as well as my writing partner for my BA project. And finally, the horse people was my dressage trainer and the girl, who rides Money on days I'm too busy.
I was sat typing up individual messages for a while, though I lost track of time, so I'm not actually sure how long it took. I sent about 5-10 sentences to each person, saying something unique about our relationship or their personality as well as how much I appreciate them. Some as text messages and some as Facebook messages. Within the first five minutes, four had answered and within the first hour ten had answered. The rest came in the following hours.
I honestly had nothing to worry about, which logically I knew I didn't, as everyone was so thankful and happy and returned it with equal praise. Mum even gave me a big hug when she came home from work and one of my university friends said it almost brought her to tears. Even the few boys in the group responded well, though with a lot less obvious emotion.
Girls are just better at that? Or maybe, society dictates that guys can't show their feelings and now that's just become the way of life for many? I don't know. But everyone was so kind and nice and I'm so happy for the family and friends I have in my life at the moment.
I know friendships comes and goes and even family falls out sometimes, but once I get invested in someone - I really get invested. I am very happy with the people I've "chosen" to have in my life and will try hard to hold onto them. And even if some of them at some point will not be in my life anymore, I'm happy they are there now. Every single one of them brings me joy in different ways and I thought the least I could do was to send a short message to let them know that I get them and I'm happy they're here. I guess, this whole thing is part of the reflective state that I've been in a while and I wanted to exploit it to spread some love.
I was toying with the idea for about a week, oddly a bit nervous to send out messages of love and appreciation, even to those closest to me. I also needed to decide, who I needed to send messages to. It didn't take long, as I think I already knew subconsciously, before I had compiled a list of 13 people or a baker's dozen if you will. In our family, 13 is a lucky number so it seemed perfect.
Also, fun fact (am I lame for actually thinking this is fun?) it's called a baker's dozen because during medieval times bakers would cheat, so a law was implemented that said exactly how much a dozen bread should be in weight. It was punishable by law, so bakers started tossing in an extra bread just to be on the sure side if one bread was too small and below the legal weight. I never knew that. Isn't that cool?
Back on track, I narrowed the important people in my life down to four categories; family, old friends, university friends and horse people. In the first category was my immediate family; Mum, Dad, little brother and grandmother. Old friends meant my two oldest friends from my first school. University friends was the four people in my study group as well as my writing partner for my BA project. And finally, the horse people was my dressage trainer and the girl, who rides Money on days I'm too busy.
Sometimes, we hold our cards too close to our chest but I really do think it's healthy to show others what you're feeling and dealing with.
By a Girl who Loves to Write aka. Me
By a Girl who Loves to Write aka. Me
I was sat typing up individual messages for a while, though I lost track of time, so I'm not actually sure how long it took. I sent about 5-10 sentences to each person, saying something unique about our relationship or their personality as well as how much I appreciate them. Some as text messages and some as Facebook messages. Within the first five minutes, four had answered and within the first hour ten had answered. The rest came in the following hours.
Found on Tumblr - isn't it so cute?
I honestly had nothing to worry about, which logically I knew I didn't, as everyone was so thankful and happy and returned it with equal praise. Mum even gave me a big hug when she came home from work and one of my university friends said it almost brought her to tears. Even the few boys in the group responded well, though with a lot less obvious emotion.
Girls are just better at that? Or maybe, society dictates that guys can't show their feelings and now that's just become the way of life for many? I don't know. But everyone was so kind and nice and I'm so happy for the family and friends I have in my life at the moment.
I know friendships comes and goes and even family falls out sometimes, but once I get invested in someone - I really get invested. I am very happy with the people I've "chosen" to have in my life and will try hard to hold onto them. And even if some of them at some point will not be in my life anymore, I'm happy they are there now. Every single one of them brings me joy in different ways and I thought the least I could do was to send a short message to let them know that I get them and I'm happy they're here. I guess, this whole thing is part of the reflective state that I've been in a while and I wanted to exploit it to spread some love.
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